I see an amazing number of questions on social media and Quora and the like from students of all sorts where my answer is, “You have to talk to faculty.”
“How do I approach a professor about my class?”
“Should I include this information on my application?”
“Should I get authorship on this journal article?”
“How can I get more time with my professor?”
Dear students, program applicants, and the like: There’s no way to talk to faculty that guarantees you get what you want. There is no risk free, fool proof conversation outline. Professors are people, and at some point, you have to learn how to talk to people. You’re an adult. The professor is an adult. Have adult conversations.
You may be shy; I get that. I was, too. But trust me, your life will get so much better and less complicated when you ask questions to the person you want an answer from, not random people on social media. Embarrassment is momentary, knowledge you gain lasts.
And a good way to ensure you don’t get what you want is not to ask, or to ask the wrong person.
Talk to professors, not about them.